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I went to a lecture tonight. It's called "China's Lost Girls". This lecture actually covered a few topics, including China's one-child policy, to encourage people to go out, see things, and do something that they think worth doing. So this title was selected probably because it could attract more people. Leave that alone, which sounds somewhat negative, it was a great lecture. A Chinese American named Lisa Ling, who has been a journalist or TV program host for 20+ years, gave the speech. It was overall objective, mind-opening, and inspiring.
With that being said, what really urged me to write something down is this gentleman I saw from the audience of this lecture.
He was late. Even though he entered from the back door, he pulled all the attention the minute he entered the auditorium. He was making loud noise, simple "ah, ah" all the way until he was seated. Then from time to time, there would be "ah, ah" from him again. The speaker had to stop to see what's going on. He said something but his voice was so low that many people didn't hear anything including me.
What is he doing? I thought. Getting attention? I've seen people like that. And that is so shallow! To make noise during a lecture or performnace to have fun of getting people's attention! When people around me turned back to watch a few times already (after a long staring when he walked in), I couldn't help talking to my friend: that's just so annoying!
Then my great lesson came before long. During the Q&A time, he stood up and asked a question, his voice was still low, but he could speak fine. And during his talking, I found that he could not stop but have to utter loud "ah, ah" between sentences too! It was some kind of disease! How shamed was I of myself to have thought of him like that!
Then I could not help but wonder, how often do we take things for granted because we don't know or because it just seems certain ways. And how great it would be if we could be more understanding and accepting...
As to the man, you can just imagine how often he has met blameful, dislike, or just misunderstanding stares from people in not only situations like tonight. And how admirable it is that he could live well through those and be on his feet to ask that question with his handicap!
Gentleman, I apologize for what I had thought of you and I solute you for having a strong and big mind...
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你爱我吧
我值得你爱！
我也会爱你，但要你先
原因，也很简单
如果我先爱上了你
哎呀不得了
我会木掉，躲掉，逃掉，又痴掉
你就看不到我了，你看不到……
求你了
别那样对我
别那样伤害我
那不应该
你先来爱我
我再爱你
好不好？
好不好……
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上周的体操男团决赛最终很大一部分都没敢看。很希望中国队夺得金牌，所以承受不起那可能出现的种种失误让希望破灭。特别是前两轮过后，中国队只排名第五。但事实是，中国队在跳马鞍马吊环上皆发挥出色。种种精彩也因为我的害怕面对而错过……
面对一个比赛尚且如此，那体操比赛之外呢？
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Oh, my God! I am just sooooo nervous watching the games with Chinese players in!! Right now it's the Men's Gymnastics Team Competition. My heart is just beating so fast!! And sometimes I feel like I can't watch any more. I just wish them do well and win the gold medal they deserve so much that I literally cannot withstand any error that may seem to put that in danger!
Just imagine how much pressure each and everyone of them is under as a player in their home country with the whole world watching!! Nobody can blame any of our atheletes that seem to have disappointed us!! Not at all! They tried their best and it must be extremely painful already to themselves to feel they didn't live up to the expectation...
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The "So You Think You Can Dance (finale) " was really a feast of dance tonight！！Really beautiful and wonderful!! Enjoyed so much!!
Love Katee, Courtney, Kherington, Gev, Chelsie, and of course, Will!
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一个同学，久未联络，周末来电，问候说：除了工作，其他方面怎么样啊？个中含义再明显不过。我了当的回答：还是老样子。他干笑了两声，说：没事，没事……
ft，谁说有事了？我本来还觉得挺满怀希望的呢，突然当头就是一瓢冰水。放下电话之后还不禁耿耿于怀——怎么single就那么值得人同情呢？就好像结了婚的就一定要快乐许多。看看过高的离婚率和身边的人们，真的很难那么认为。婚姻是幸福保障？怕只是相对更加确定的互相陪伴而已吧。（当然，不乏很多幸运的相知相惜的结合。）
但是确定的陪伴某种意义上也是一种幸福——有所期待，有所牵挂，有一家老少大事小情去忙碌。当然烦恼和矛盾也会因为人员关系而递增，但是若能做到把这些烦恼和矛盾大化小小化了，那才真的能从相互分享陪伴当中感受到更多的幸福。所以说，幸福需要智慧去把握。
各人饮水，冷暖自知。
不过人家如何看待你single，也只能随人家去。不然怎样？你一定要做出一副什么什么样子给人家看？那才叫累呢。也罢，虽然感受到强大的压力，也要本着对自己无比负责的心态说：挺住！一定要挺住！
“口号”喊了几下，也是自娱自乐，之后我就忘了这个电话，之后现在又想起来了——唉，想“直面人生”多不容易啊！
其实叫不叫“挺住”，也不会有什么分别。自己的情感面对自己的理智向来是“贫贱不移，威武不屈，富贵不淫”。我束手无策。
不过话说回来，我真的觉得过得挺好的啊。再说，29岁就得被同情，就得着急啊？更何况我还没有29呢，我才28.64！！
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http://news.wenxuecity.com/messages/200807/news-gb2312-663885.ht ml （请copy，paste，然后去掉空格）
知足常乐- - 中国人的性格 [美]亚瑟.亨.史密斯 著
我们已经看到，中国人在忍受任何困难方面具有令人惊叹不己、不可思议的能力。这种能力或许可称为一种心理悖论。明明是处于毫无希望的境地，他们却没有表现
出一种失望；更确切地说，他们似乎是在作无望的抗争，并且往往不是为了希望。19世纪末叶，大多数民族都有一种烦躁焦虑的特性，而据我们所观察，中国人并
没有这样的特性。他们似乎并不打算去迎接“一个美好时代的到来”，甚至从没想过会有这样的时代。
但是，“忍”和“韧”这两个词根本不能涵盖中国人全部的美德。我们还必须注意到他们往往能在不幸的环境中保持心灵的安宁和长期的精神愉快，我们可称之力
“常乐”。我们的主要目的是要唤起人们对这种美德的注意；当然也可能会提出某些值得思考的问题，以帮助对这种美德的理解。
说中国人“知足”，并不意味着中国人只是满足于已经获得的，而不希望获得更多更好。正如我们在论及中国人的因循守旧时已经看到，他们的知足最能表现在他们
对待自己的政体上。他们从来也没想过要改变那种政体。这就是中国人的脾气，对此，我们毫不怀疑。就一般的意义而言，因循守旧并非为中国人所独有，所有民族
都有这种现象，不过中国人较为典型而已，很显然，中国人的因循守旧观念充满着整个社会，世代相传，完全压制了人们对于命运安排的不满。他们当然会遇到灾
难，但却被认为是不可避免的。始终固守这种观点的人不可能会努力去推翻已建立的秩序，道理很简单，因为他们身受的压力过于沉重了。中国的知识界实际上是思
想和行动的领导者，这是其他任何国家所不可比拟的。但是，中国的知识界却极力说服中国人，现存的体制是公认最好的。他们以史为鉴，旁征博引，以令人信服的
实例告诫中国人，对他们的体制作任何改良都是行不通的。他们这种顽固不化的因循守旧正是这样慢慢地生长起来的。
中国人是一个相信命运的民族，对此还没有人完全认识到。在中国的经典中，有大量有关“天命”的论述。百姓之间也经常说到所谓“天意”。这种说法往往与我们
所说的上帝无所不能极其相似。但在基本思想上还是有着根本的区别：对我们而言，“上帝”意味着一个任其观念中完全拥有并创造世界一切、能给我们带来关怀和
预言的造物主；对中国人而言，“天”实际上指的是一个笼统的非人格的东西，而且还是完全说不清的东西，实际上就是命运。“好命”与“坏”，对中国人来说，
其意思类似于儿童故事书中的“好神”与“坏神”。依据这些神秘的东西就能做成一切，或不能做成一切。
中国人的占卜、巫术、算命，其复杂的说法和做法是依据一种直线式的力的作用和相互作用。有数不清的中国人正是依据这种普遍实用的说法度日生活的。当然，在
中国的不同地区，这种迷信对人们日常生活的影响不尽相同，但它们却是真实地存在于人们的心目之中。中国人，无论是男人或是女人，都总爱说：“这是我的
命。”尤其是那些运气不佳的人更是这样。相信命运的必然结果是走向绝望，或者失望；带着这种念头的人，尤其是中国人，只能像病人一样等待着最后的解脱，等
待着时来运转。也许中国人并不像土耳其人那样始终相信命运，也许中国人的“命”不同于“真主之意”，但是，一个民族如果像中国人那样相信命运的存在，相信
命运是事物的本质，是不可违抗的，那么就肯定不会为改变自己的命运而坚决抗争。
历史是以实例教人的哲学，这是希腊人长期以来的看法。正如我们所看到的，中国人自己的历史一直是他们的老师，正是吸取了历史教训，才使他们形成了因循守旧
的尽最大可能地屈从而毫无怨言，而不愿花力气撞墙以表现出或多或少的顽强不屈，“不能医治的伤疯必须忍受”，这一古老的格言是他行事的依据。简而言之，中
国人知道富该怎样，穷该怎样；最重要的是，在这两种情况下，他知道如何知足。
中国人的常乐，我们必须视之为一种民族特性，与他们的知足有着密切的联系。他们所获得的幸福总是超过所期待的，与我们不同，他们总是尽量地自得其乐。普通
的中国人没有过分的讲究。他们总是模范的客人。不管在什么地方吃饭，吃什么，他们都觉得够好的了。即使是为数众多的缺穿少吃的人，他们也始终保持不慌不
忙，其样子显然会令我们感到惊异。
中国人的常乐一般与他们的好交际密切相关，这与盎格鲁－撒克逊人忧郁孤傲的性格形成鲜明的对照。中国人的主要乐趣之一似乎是与人聊天，无论是老朋友还是陌生人，差别并不大。毫无疑问，中国人所遭受的许多痛苦可以通过聊天而感到大为缓解。
值得一提的是，许多中国人乐于种树养花以点缀非常简陋的环境，并成为最大的爱好。有一句难以表达清楚的说法：“东西不多，应有尽有”。
也许中国人生病的时候最能表现出他们乐观的天性。一般来说，他们对一切都表示乐观，也希望人人对自己的境况保持乐观。甚至对于极度的病痛，他们也常常表现
出充满希望的乐观。我们知道，许多中国病人，遭受严重疾病，往往又极度贫穷，总是得不到适当的营养，身边又无亲人，甚至还可能遭到亲戚的冷遇或抛弃，几乎
看不到一线希望，但是，他们仍然一直保持快乐与镇定。而在同样的情况下，盎格鲁一撒克逊人肯定会表现出烦躁不安的情绪。
我们相信，具有这种快乐性格的中国人决不在少数，每个在中国待久的外国人都会遇见他们。我们需要重申的是，如果历史所告诉的“适者生存”是真的，那么中国人就会有一个美好的未来。
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想说的是So You Think You Can Dance里面的Will，上周四离开了。很可惜。他是男选手当中最棒的。性格也很赞。觉得他的fans以为他一定很安全才没有怎么投票。本来还猜要么是他，要么是Katee会获得最后胜利呢。实在可惜，后面看不到他表演了。
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Both left "So You Think You Can Dance" tonight. To my big surprise, each of them.
I like them both, a lot. They have great technique, great personality, and the best of all, great passion.(Can't forget the jazz, the 斗牛舞,the hip-hop, the comtemporary routine with a bed, and so on, from Kherington. And Gev has delivered super hip-hop solos.)
It was sad to see them leaving and a little hard to believe.
I have really enjoyed the performances from each of them. And, hey, keep dancing. It's beautiful... and wonderful...
Hats off to great dancers, Kherington and Gev.
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There was a big rainbow today.
So beautiful!
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